He told me he has a "troll meme Instagram" but.. it's not.

Kaela

This is mostly a rant to get it off my chest/looking for communication advice.

Last night, my boyfriend told me he reactivated an old instagram acct he used to "troll people". He's told me about it before and said the same thing so I didn't think anything of it at first. Months ago, he told me it was to create a following and build a meme page that would eventually gain thousands of likes.

He showed me what he posted and there were several stupid political memes and then 3 or 4 porn star looking headshots to which I asked "so you make fun of porn stars hesdshots?" He said no, but he could.

He told me the name of the acct, so of course I searched it. It's a private account. The bio said "Posting tasteful porn shots" and "Ambassador of several porn sites. DM for extra pics and info" "meme page in the making" ok, not exactly what he told me about.

I could not sleep last night as I had a million questions. I opened the account in the middle of the night and the timeline was ALL porn. The suggested page was ALL porn as well. Every single acct he follows is a porn page. He had messages FROM pages with responses like "Yeah, nice but it's fake so whatever" but didn't have any liked posts or any DMs sent and now I'm even more hurt and confused.

There were also several more porn star headshots and political memes added to his uploads than what he originally showed me AND he had changed his bio/username but since I had searched it, I can still find it. I have screenshots of all of the changes.

I know I need to talk to him about it. I know I need to be calm and collected but holy shit, I'm devastated. I laid awake all night trying to put the conversation together in my head and even prayed over it.

So, advice? Anyone face something similar? Other things to look out for? Words of encouragement?

Update: Came out and asked him about it.

He said "a like on a post is a like and all those pages are fake". I tried my best to explain to him how bad the page looked and how anyone with less than half a brain would react the same way I did and i want to believe he understood.

He says he started the account as he did to build a flowing base and was planning on only posting memes eventually but needed to gain interest in the page. He saw how upset I was and deleted a majority of the pages he follows without me having to ask. He offered to show me the timeline, but I said no, I already knew what it would be.

We ended up in an argument about other facets of our relationship one of which being money, which has been extremely tight. He said he wanted to build the page from what it is to a meme page where he could eventually earn money from. I want to believe him, I really do but time will tell what his true intentions are.

At this point, all of the porn pages are unfollowed. All of the posts are deleted. And the page has been edited to look like an ACTUAL meme page. I'll keep an eye on it and keep a look out for other accounts.

We'll be continuing our convo later tonight however, whether he likes it or not.