So, background info. I am his first relationship, we are 20/21. We’ve been friends for a year? And dating for 6 months. He is so understand and just pure wonderful. I took his virginity, all that Jazz, and we are long distance now. We are very honest and transparent about our relationship, and we always have talks or discussions and are open minded as much as possible.

Today my Boyfriend asked me this, as a “hypothetical” but it ended up being his own thoughts. I do believe that just because you’re in a relationship, you can’t possibly see every other person as ugly, but I don’t think you should be mentally rating someone or thinking how attractive they are when you are having an encounter with them? I like to think I’m very understanding and open minded, and I appreciate honesty over everything. But this honestly really hurt me. I’ve been through countless abusive relationships, and just exited an abusive relationship with my child’s father. I feel so insecure now, I’m sad, hurt, I feel so dumb. I don’t know how to react to this?

Any input? Should I be mad? Should I be debating on staying in this relationship? I have been thinking about whether or not to break up because now I’m thinking I can’t trust him if he’s finding every Person attractive that he’s running into. I don’t want to over exaggerate, but I’m genuinely hurt by this...any advice?

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