Confused

So I posted about this around christmas and some of you may remember my post but my boyfriend is acting weird about things that I have sent him..

We are long distance so everything I've sent I have put a lot of thought and effort into to make it meaningful.

For christmas: handmade blanket, shirt, a small bottle of my perfume, favorite candy

Valentine's day: engraved key chain, small "I love you" shadow box, etc.

Everything I've sent he says "I'll use it when I see you", "I'm saving it for when I see you". At first, with the blanket I made at christmas I thought it was sweet but now I'm annoyed. I spend a lot of time and effort finding things that are meaningful to be little reminders because were long distance and they just get shoved back in the box. I got him an engraved watch for our anniversary and I dont even want to send it because I'm sure I'll get the same "I'm saving it" line. I've tried to voice my feelings about it but they just get put off by him saying he wants to save it to use with me around even though the point of the things I send are because I'm NOT around. I've watched him open every box and honestly he seems appreciative and really likes it. I can tell by his face when he doesn't like something but then to ruin it..

I dont want to think hes cheating. There are no other indicators of that going on. I'm just confused and a little hurt by what's going on. I guess after I send this watch I wont send anymore gifts and just stick to cards

I just feel like I'm being hidden. Weve been doing this for a year, hes even come to visit me and all he will tell me is that his mother knows I "exist" but that's really it. Then he drops on me one day that he is a DNR and I'm worried that if something happens..I'll never know because it's like no one knows about me. Were probably going to have to do this for another year before he (his choice to move) moves and all of these things are catching up to me. I'm not mad that he doesn't seem like a sentimental type and I'm not mad that he doesn't want to use them. What upsets me is the feeling like they're being hidden because I'm being hidden. If that makes sense.

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Red flags in my opinion. Everyone important to my SO knew I was his partner. His mother tried to forget my existence but he would always be adamant with her I am sticking around. All gifts are always used/put up or out. What is the point of keeping something until you two are together? Will it even work/be useable/be in good condition by that time? I dont even know why and its gonna sound super dumb but it reminds me of the children's show Arthur and the episode where he got a bike for christmas and just saved it. Iirc it ended up breaking from him never using it and then finally wanting to. Lessons to be learned. Don't hoard things. Get things to use immediately/over time otherwise it is just wasteful. And while his face may show appreciation his actions do not reflect it.