Hi, I wanted to get advice on something. There’s this guy that’s been interested in me for a couple of months. I was told by one of his coworkers that he planned on asking me out. The thing is, he’s 38 and I’m 21. He has 4 kids. His oldest is maybe up to 6 years younger than I am and the younger ones are twins and they’re about 1-2 years old. I say all this because

1. I don’t want to date someone who has a child who’s not even a decade apart in age from me.

2. He has two twin boys who are fresh out the womb and I’m afraid that that him and the kids mother still have a deeper connection besides the kids.

3. I don’t want any baby mama drama.

4. I don’t want to be “one of daddy’s friends”. I don’t want to end up like the women that my dad kept bringing around me. He has a daughter and I don’t want to be that to her.

5. I am not quite understanding why he anything to do with me. Like I’m honestly appalled with his attraction to me. Like he is literally old enough to be my dad and I’m honest to god wondering. Like what would you do with a 21 year old kid like I’m honestly baffled.

I’ve asked a lot of people for advice and it’s a mixture of them saying I should date this person and them being disgusted by it. I just wanted the opinions of people who were with people with a big age difference. I would love you guys’ advice. The more, the better. Thank You.