Crying at 5AM over what he says

I don’t even know where to start i just want to vent .. yesterday me and my husband bumped heads over me asking him to not slam the microwave door because our newborn was sleeping, he got so annoyed and threw his food in the fridge which resulted in it hitting things and falling to the floor ... somehowwwwww this caused a huge argument and he tells me i was talking shit ??? I’m so emotionally upset even writing this because this happens all the time man.. i will ask him to do something and he will get pissed and annoyed with me like i did something wrong ... we have literally got into an argument before from me asking him to wash his hands !!!! during a time when he was sick and i didn’t want our toddler catching anything i literally cannot take his over dramatic responses to everything !! ...There’s been a lot going on with appointments for our kids and planning a Sprinkle .. he’s been working a lot so i haven’t had time to go run errands (we share a car) the other day i say aww you picked up another shift ? I haven’t had time to do anything it seems .... he says oh great i guess i won’t work anymore then cus you’re making me feel like shit ...... 🤦🏽‍♀️ HOWWWWW!?

I feel like i can’t say anything without this man thinking I’m out to get him it’s so annoying it causes so many arguments over nothing .

I do a lot for my husband and he does for me as well but as soon as he’s mad it’s you don’t do shit for me ... i clean the house “you don’t clean shit” i tell him i love him all the time, always complimenting him showing affection “ You don’t really love me you just say that, you’re lying” i randomly shop for him buying nice things.. “You don’t do shit for me, you buy me things thinking it will make me happy but you rly don’t actually do shit for me” “you’ve never bought me anything” ... our whole relationship I’ve been the main one to want to mend what ever disagreement we were having, i could say baby can we talk this out I’m sorry on my part for today or for this or that and from him i always hear “you never say sorry” 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ i get told “you need to wake up sooner than what you do”.... i take care of our newborn all day and throughout the night hardly getting sleep but now it’s a problem me waking up around 11 am LIKE GOD can i do nothing right with this man he appreciates nothing 💔 everything he says i don’t do i do ... so what am i supposed to do :(

Sorry for long post 😢