Relationships and Space

So y’all, I’m big on verbal communication in relationships. I happened to make this very clearly to the person that I’m currently dating on our third date so we could start off on the right path.

When we first started dating he would drive over to Florida from Georgia to come see me because I don’t drive and I can’t exactly Uber to him. (We’re both military and live on bases.) After a while he stopped FaceTiming me, stopped calling and sometimes he wouldn’t even text me for days. Being the type of person I am, this worried me so I tried to reach out to him, give him affection whenever I see him but then he started to push me away saying that I’m too needy and clingy.

Anyway.. He began to neglect me emotionally and anytime I mentioned my feelings he would say I’m tripping or I let things get to me too easily. Basically, tell me I shouldn’t feel what I’m feeling. When I tried to explain to him that I’ve been in a emotionally abusive relationship before and this neglect is triggering me, he switched it around to make it seem as though nothing is really wrong and I’m overreacting.

After that, came over twice to give me driving lessons. The last time he was here, my friend wanted to meet him but when we got to him he was having a conversation with someone he knew from boot camp. We literally stood at his car waiting on him, he saw us there and pretended like he didn’t. When finally walked over to the car, he just opened the door and said, “Get in.” My friend got annoyed by his approach and tone of voice and told him not to talk to me that way. I spoke to him about it in the car, but I let it go because it really wasn’t that big of a deal to me. He hasn’t spoke to me since he left that night, which was four days ago. I sent him messages but he just ignored them but I don’t wanna say anything about this disappearing act because he constantly says that I’m needy which makes him feel overwhelmed and when he wants space I have aneurism.

What’s really upsetting is that he never says that he wants space, he just ghosts me.. he even did that on my birthday and Valentine’s Day.

This really hurts my feelings but I don’t know if I’m overreacting.

Sometimes, I think maybe he’s been alone for so long, he just doesn’t know how to treat me or he just doesn’t care.