Anyone going thro this or have advise?

Question

So I recently had a miscarriage and had to get it removed 2 weeks ago. Not only was I at major risk for health issues and cancer but the baby was as I got told a complete molar pregnancy. I keep having what I got told were “fits” of anxiety. My chest is constantly uneasy and now I’m really it’s coming on more. I’ve also turned to alcohol. I’m realizing it’s turning into a problem. I can’t talk to anyone about it. I don’t have contact with my dad, my mom has enough stress, my brother had a baby the day I got my baby removed (coincidence right) and my sister is too busy with her son. Idk what to do anymore. My chest is killing me and my stomach is constantly upset.

Answer

There are a few things here that needs to be considered. Let’s start with - I’m sorry for your loss. As we do not know what causes the miscarriage it’s better not to point finger around as 1/4 pregnancy ends in miscarriage and it is more common that we actually think. I say this to let you know that you are not alone. How you cope with the loss is another issue. Perhaps you are ruminating a lot and that increases the risk of stress which then lead to disorders like depression. Distraction is a good technique but we need to make sure the distraction is pointing to the right direction. Alcohol is a form of distraction, however, it only relief your pain for a short term. To get you out of this vicious cycle. It is necessary to know that that every fall there’s a chance to stand up. Don’t let anyone convince you that you are incapable to have children or put yourself esteem down. Most importantly .. make sure YOU don’t put your own self down. Take care of your feeling say positive things to yourself. The chest pain can be a physiological sign of panic .. you need to find out what exactly causes it (sometimes it’s just your thoughts) and find a way to rearrange your thinking pattern to avoid stress which then triggers panic attack. Try some self help book. If you can access a counsellor talk to them if you want to try therapy there can also be access online. 
I wish you the best in your journey. Remember we only fail only when we give up !! ❤️

Anyone going thro this or have advise?

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