help with honest advice as I’ve never been told this and I’m so confused as my friends are telling me different things..

I really like this guy and want to be with him but he told me it isn’t a good time as he loves his job ( we work together) but my dad owns it and has approved. And doesn’t want to mess or make awkward if things go south and he is just trying to get his life together right now and doesn’t want either one of us to hurt during the process of that... he said after he gets his life together it’ll all be fine and we can try but isn’t the whole point of an relationship to help build each other? does it sound like he is pushing me away? as he did say after he feels like I hate him and don’t think he wants to be in a relationship with me anymore??? please help