So I just found out that I am pregnant with baby #4. We were doing the pull out method (because none of the other contraception fit me) so we knew it was a possible risk, bit apparently I’m the only one willing to accept it.

I told him the news this morning and he told me we were not having an other baby together. So either I keep the baby on my own or I have an abortion.

I don’t want to get an abortion, not under these conditions, but also forcing him to have a child he does not want seems inappropriate.

He doesn’t want to talk to me right now because I told him I wasn’t going to get an abortion, but I wanted to get your opinion. We have 3 kids together, a great life, a house, two cars, etc. I’m also a stay at home mom, so I would definitely not have that luxery if we split up. I love my life, I loved it just as it was, but now that this tiny possible baby is here, I can’t let it go.

Some might say to wait and see if he changes his mind, but honestly he’s not the kind of guy who changes his mind, so I’m really not positive that he will.

What would you do?

Also, please don’t insult him, obviously he’s not exited about me having an abortion, but he feels he can’t mentally handle having four kids.

Also, we were using the pullout because of me, and I’m the one who didn’t want him to get a vasectomy because I was hoping in a few years he would change his mind for a fourth child. So it really is more my fault.