When to accept it might not happen

So I’ve just tested at 10dpo and got a negative. Then wiped and had brown spotting (also had a tiny bit at 8dpo). So disheartening. I know with everything going on in the world at the moment it’s probably a good thing, but this is our 5th month of trying and nothing. I know a lot of people try for much longer and that it’s normal for it to take this long. I just feel so sad as we waited ages to start trying for various reasons and now I just feel like it’s not going to happen on its own. And it seems everyone around me is getting pregnant. I’m just 34 so do feel like my clock is ticking. Any reassurance is helpful. Thanks everyone.x