Advice needed.

We are expecting our 3rd.. we haven't told anyone we are due July. We figured xmas time we will tell everyone... this being said I had my younger brothers gf msg me last night to tell me she thinks we will be announcing our 3rd at xmas time.. so now I don't want to do it then as she's expecting it lol.

Also our 1st my mom pretty much trashed me to other family and didn't give a shit about my pregnancy...granted I kept it till I was 17 weeks as I was alone with a hubby overseas.....2nd baby she was better but then my older brother announced they were having a kid she was crying and happy and hugging them so it was like a kick in the face for us...anyways... I'm to nervous to even think about telling my family... what r some good ways and good timings.