Am I being selfish?

Alright so, my husband and I have been married for almost a year and together for almost 4. At the beginning, I had come from two different somewhat toxic relationships and I was very insecure in bed and wanted to “please” without being “pleased”. This got me into a corner because my now husband found out and was very upset that I was lying to him about me also having an orgasm. We worked it out and I haven’t lied since to him.

FFWD to now, and I use a vibrator to help me get off too. I’ve tried using my fingers but it takes too long. Most days he just wants to go “one round” and I want to cum too so the vibrator helps so we can both cum about the same time.

Today, he just started interrogating me in the middle of sex on if it felt good without a vibrator and I think I blew it. It doesn’t feel that good at all w/o a vibrator but it feels awesome with him AND the vib. I tried to explain that to him but he’s upset I can’t cum with just his dick. How do I fix this and explain that I love having sex with him but with a vib and WITHOUT crushing his spirit because he said it hurt his feelings ///: I love him but for some reason everything I say makes it worse.