Sex life falling apart..

So I finally got some dick after I’ve been subliminally asking for some, give him head, he fingers me, blah blah blah. But I am super swollen after, now idk if it’s from friction and not enough lube or what, cause we stopped in the middle to grab the lube, or if it’s from not being fully turned on, cause he just fingered me a little bit, then boom, just stuck it in. Idk how to tell him I need more foreplay cause nowadays sex seems like a chore to him, he never wants to do it anymore 😕 it’s kinda ruins my self esteem, like I give him head and make him cum but I never get anything in return. I mention me getting oral but that’s always a no go. I just need to vent because I feel like my sex life is falling apart. Idk what to do or say so we can both enjoy it. 😔 I’m sorry this is a dumb post but I’m stuck and about ready to give up on sex.