Hey ladies! I’d just like some input or advice, I’ve posted on here a couple other instances and received some great pointers. So I am 20 years old and grew up pretty fast bc of my upbringing. Bc of this I find it hard to connect w guys my age and be able to build a relationship w them. So I decided I’d give older guys a try, nothing major just a couple to 9 years older. I’ve encountered the similar issues w guys I date regardless of age! The issue is, we establish in the beginning when we first start talking that we both want something serious and looking to build a relationship. And once that’s out the way it gets sexual and never leads up to an actual relationship resulting in months of my time wasted.

Currently I’m talking to a 26year old, he seems like a nice, fun guy! Bc of the whole quarantine thing we’ve only been texting and snapchatting daily. Tonight we had our first FaceTime. It was great at first! He was really sweet and we had a great conversation, he kept complimenting me and being the Leo that I am I greatly appreciated it. He mentioned how after it was all over he’s going to invite me over and make dinner for me and after we’d watch a great horror movie (we bonded over our love of horror movies). All good right! Until he mentioned how we probably wouldn’t get through half of it cause we’d get distracted and he was just on that for the rest of the FT call........ Like don’t get me wrong he’s an extremely attractive guy but bc I want something something serious that really isn’t the first thing that crosses my mind. I feel as if getting sexual too quickly will only lead him to viewing me as someone for that one thing and not take me serious. But waiting MONTHS has never helped me either. So I’m confused as to where I should take this. Should I be straight up and tell him I don’t want to get sexual too quick? I don’t even know how to approach it. I bring up the age bc sometimes I feel that bc I’m young slightly older guys think it makes me easier? But they only think that bc they won’t take the time to actually get to know me and allow me to get to know them. I’ve seen this pattern in passed dating experiences which is why I closed myself off emotionally when dating to avoid getting hurt. But I’m at a point now where I’ve worked on myself and know for sure what I want! I’m happy alone and love spending time with myself but I’m ready to share myself and life again! I am very family oriented so I do tend to get lonely living on my own. My last serious relationship was back in 2017. I definitely do want to put my foot down if something like that comes up again but I just don’t know how. It just bothers me that for some reason men always just view me for my looks. I’ve even tried different approaches. I met him on Bumble, bc Tinder is just too 🥴. I made sure to avoid uploading any “provocative” pictures and used the looking for relationship filter. Maybe I just continue to look at all the wrong guys in all the wrong places. But these people always seem genuine and sincere in the beginning. Maybe I’m just extremely naive still??? Not in everything but maybe just w guys haha. My friends and family always come to me when in need of relationship advice and it works well for them, but somehow I can’t figure out how to help myself lol. Sorry this is so long and ranty just needed to vent. If you took the time to read or skim through, thank you 🥰❤️