Just found I’m pregnant from a one night stand almost 3 months ago; we used a condom and I thought we were safe so this has been very shocking for me so far. I haven’t told the father yet, but I have him on Facebook and I’m pretty sure he’s started seeing someone now.

I’m 28 years old. I live by myself, I have a pretty good job, and I’m up for a manager promotion so financially I’m doing well.

I already scheduled an appointment with planner parenthood for an ultrasound because they can do one after 4 weeks, and the regular OB doesn’t do one until after 20 weeks. I also want to go to get the feel of what their clinics are like.

I keep considering an abortion because I don’t think I’m mentally ready to raise a baby by myself, although I don’t think it would be the worst idea. And if I don’t try it then I’ll never know what is like.

I support women’s rights to be able to choose what is best for their bodies, and I thought I knew what I would do in a situation like this, but right now I don’t know anything. I feel this unbearable amount of guilt if I go through with an abortion. I feel like I will be killing a little clump of cells (fetus) that could have turned into a baby, MY baby.

I have a pretty supportive family and my parents live two blocks from me, and I know they’ll be so happy to be grandparents and be there for me every step of the way.

I also would like to tell the father but what if he doesn’t want me to go through with it (either go through with the pregnancy or the abortion. I just don’t know) I don’t know how to approach him about it and I definitely don’t want him to feel pressured like he HAS to have an opinion on the matter.

I have this fear of what if this is my only chance of having a family. I’m almost 30. I’ve never had a serious relationship, and have never been able to commit to a man. I have always wanted to have kids but I’ve always pictured myself being married first or at least in a serious relationship.

I’m honestly feeling so lost right now. I haven’t told anybody close to me yet, besides HR at my job. I’m starting to show and I need to make a decision ASAP, and I don’t know what decision to make.