My fiancé is starting to work my nerves! So he works as a military recruiter, very long hours, from early morning to late nights about 6 days a week, sometimes 5 if its a good week. His job consists of telephone calls all day basically, scouting the area for ppl (like stores n stuff), n tons of driving. Its mentally exhausting. I stay at home with our 10 month old n im 33 weeks pregnant. We just moved to this area where i know not one person n im 27 hours away from my home so its been a rough transition, the area is very small n an ugly place! So anyways, ive become depressed out here, not used to being at home all day with a baby, ive always been independent with my own money n bills, but now the roles have switched. Ok i get it, but being depressed has also made me a bit lazy i guess. I mean, when i lived by myself i didnt have a messy house bc it was just me n i was always working, i didnt cook bc it was just me so i went out everyday for every meal n i ate at work. So that has also been an adjustment. Now im cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, taking care of baby, not my norm. I hate folding clothes so i have baskets of unfolded clothes but they're clean. I do the kitchen everyday n when i cook i clean as i go. Laundry is the biggest issue. Anyways so my fiancé n i have been arguing alot n this dude is always complaining that the house isnt in perfect shape n that if he could stay home it would look way better. He claims he can cook n take care of the baby n clean everyday much better than me! The house will never be perfect, sorry. But i will tidy it up at the end of the day n make sure there are no dirty dishes. He's been home for quarantine so I've been letting him take charge, he still has to work but just phone calls. He's been struggling. Today he cooked breakfast (this is the first time he has cooked since we lived together in 9 months) n made a mess in the kitchen..i mean shit everywhere. So i suggested he clean as he goes but he didnt. Then i told him i would help him clean up when he was ready. He said ok. Its now 2 am n the kitchen is still a mess. I finally got tired of looking at it n cleaned up everything except the 4 pans he used to cook. Still hasnt cleaned those. He's been home n hasnt touched a single laundry basket. Hasnt fed the baby, he will change her diaper tho, n if i need a nap he will stay with her but i guarantee he is playing a game n not really watching her. So my naps arent really naps bc im listening out to make sure she is ok. Most of the time i get up bc she is crying n he isnt doing shit except playing so then i just assume my responsibility. He wont do anything in the house unless i ask him, he will walk by a full trash can a million times until i say something. He has never cleaned anything. I get frustrated bc how are u gonna complain about anything when u dont even help when u have the chance? Or how dare u say u could do something better than me but when it comes down to it u actually cant? Im just tired of him making me feel like shit about the house not being perfect when he doesnt contribute anything except to add to the mess. N he wonders why i get so angry with him on a day to day basis, or why i just dont say shit to him bc i dont want to argue. I will continue doing what i do n how i do it. Ive tried to talk to him about just the little things he can do to help if its an issue, like not leaving his clothes everywhere, or the trash..or if he uses one dish to wash it real quick like i do but he cant even do that. Its getting to the point where our relationship is being affected really badly by this. We r looking into counseling, only bc i need someone else to tell him the things i already tell him, maybe he will listen if it comes from someone else. Idk how much more i can take tho, between being depressed, the baby, n being pregnant, n being quarantined i feel like im about to lose it. I want to move back home but i gave up everything to be with him so i would be starting over. N honestly im scared to just pick up n leave with 2 kids. Idk idk idk...i just needed to get this shit off my chest, if u read this i appreciate u taking the time. Any advice is welcome, if u dont have anything nice to say or feel like im overreacting or whatever, i get it, just figure a way to state ur opinion in a way that isnt gonna start some bs, i know im not perfect n i could work on some shit so im ok with ppl being critical. Its just the ppl up here that just like to be nasty as hell n i cant stand that shit. Thanks for reading.

Quick update bc im about to lose my mind! Its the next morning n i figured i would wake up to a clean kitchen so i could cook..nope..but i did wake up to him sitting on the couch playing his game! I AM DONE! Idk why this is bothering me so much but i literally want to scream