Scared... mom might have cancer
Hey guys. So I’m 18, will be headed off to college in the fall, have 2 brothers that are entering middle school (twins).
Unfortunately, my mom has some symptoms that only ever present themselves in oral cancer. My dad is a retired paramedic and he’s not optimistic. And because of this whole quarantine thing, the nearest doctor appointment we can get is 2 months away.
I’m so scared. My mother is the emotional heart of my family and the only breadwinner. If she can’t work anymore- or heaven forbid something were to happen to her- it might mean I would have to drop out of college, my brothers go to a public school (one of them is special needs so it would be a very bad situation for him), and my dad... he would go into a depression I’m not sure he can get out of. He already has anxiety, mild PTSD and anger management issues from a lifetime in the Navy+ firefighting/ paramedic and she’s been his rock for decades... I’m staying strong and reassuring for her on the outside but on the inside I’m just so scared and don’t know what to do.
She has a high-paying job but taking medical leave is not an option for her.
Does anybody else have similar stories, or any words of comfort? I can’t talk to any of my friends about it because she doesn’t want their parents and thus her work knowing... I just feel so alone here. I don’t want to have to drop from college (I got a really good scholarship) but I will if I have to get a job to keep my brother at his school.