For those of you who have been through marriage counseling, or are a marriage counselor, I have some questions about how it works. Please, no back lash from anyone on the problems within my marriage. I know it is breaking, so I am going to try to fix it.

Questions:

if you talk to a marriage counselor about abuse in your relationship, will they report it?

At what point will a marriage counselor call cps on a couple?(nothing has happened to my daughter, my husband and I both love her dearly and she has never been involved in our problems with each other).

Can I talk about my husbands past and current addiction(s)?

Can I talk about how I have had concerns about his faithfulness to our marriage?

At what point will a marriage counselor decide they cannot help you any further?

What will a marriage counselor do to try and help us?

Backstory:

My husband just hit me in the face last night, for the first time. We were arguing because he was pissed off that I looked through his phone. Three weeks ago, he broke my trust for the hundredth time, by watching porn and trying to hide his tracks. (Porn is a hard no in our marriage, and has been from the start.). He’s admitted before of having a problem with watching porn. He called it a borderline addiction. Because he has had several addictions in the past, he knows when he cannot control him self. I appreciated the honesty and he asked me to put a restriction on his iPhone for adult content so that I could help him stay accountable. I of course did it. So three weeks ago, he watched porn and then came home and asked me to get some fishnet stockings (something he’s never asked of me before). I didn’t have any and I thought it was suspicious, so I looked at his search history on YouTube and sure enough, he was watching a woman twerk while only wearing fishnet stockings. I was disgusted. We talked it out. He apologized and said that I could look at his phone whenever I wanted and he wouldn’t get mad about it. He promised. So yesterday I told him I was going to look at his phone in a little while. Gave him a heads up. He immediately got defensive and said that I should just trust him and that I’m controlling and that it was stupid of me to look at his phone. I didn’t find much on his phone this time, except for the secret messages option on Facebook turned on on April 8. We previously discovered secret messages together one day, and both turned them off on our messenger app. The feature was turned back on on his phone. He claims that it somehow turned its self on. I questioned it for a long time and finally ended up extremely pissed about it. He wouldn’t stop talking down to me, telling me how he goes out and works his ass off and all I do is stay at home with our child and clean. He says that what he does is so much harder than what I do, and there is no reason I should ever feel like I can’t trust him. (Never mind all of the strip clubs he went to when I was pregnant, or the weed, or the meth, or the alcohol, or the porn. Never mind everything he’s put me through in the past almost 4 years. None of that matters.) so anyway, we finally got to really arguing over this, and he went to knock my cig out of my hand, and accidentally hit me hard in the face. My glasses got knocked loose, and cut below my cheek and on my nose from how hard he hit me. I left the conversation after that, and he tried following me around the house and still yelling at me. He eventually got tired of that and went outside and downed four beers and played on his phone while I went to bed. We haven’t talked since that happened. I’m giving this whole story because I want to know honestly, if I tell a marriage counselor about all of this with my husband there too, will the counselor report all of this? Will we get our daughter taken away?? This is my last resort to fixing our marriage, so I want to do it, but I don’t want my daughter taken away. And I don’t want anything to happen to my husband because of all of this. I just want this fixed and to be happy with my husband. Please answer my questions if you can, and again please no backlash on how bad this marriage has gotten. I know it is bad. That’s why I’m trying one last thing to fix it.