Broken.. hurt. I need advice.
Long story but please read...
Back story:
I am 22 and my husband is 24. We have been married almost two yrs but together for 8. We are a young couple. We had our baby last July, I got pregnant right after and I’m due in 7 weeks! We just bought a house together two months ago.
Last night I was on my own personal Snapchat and had a notification say “Hubby recently joined” with a sexual username. This was not his personal account. So I got out of bed and asked him about it. He lied over and over again saying it wasn’t him. It obviously was. He admitted finally and said he was going to make a bad decision but realized he was going to mess up our family. I grabbed my phone and guessed the password and got in first try. He had females on there sending him videos and pictures. He said some nasty stuff that I’ve never heard him ever say. So they did have conversations. He found them on camsoda, a live video cam girl site.
*let me add that he has been weird with his phone for awhile now. Like constantly taking it everywhere with him. He will go into the bathroom and lock the doors for awhile which is new. He never locked the doors before. I know, I might sound crazy.. but he never did that before.
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He tried to say that he thought I!!! Me!! Was cheating. I would never. He said later on that he just said that to get heat off of him.
He lied over and over about how much he paid them. I never checked his CC statements bc I never thought I had to but what I could see from online he spent $250!!! If not more. We are use to having OT from both full time jobs and my doctor had me stop working three weeks ago. So we aren’t doing to well on money right now. He wouldn’t let me into that cam soda site, and wouldn’t let me see his phone. He said he didn’t want to hurt me anymore. He admitted he has a issue with sex. He told me he would do counseling & offered to do marriage counseling too with me. He deleted the Snapchat account but I have screen shots of everything since I was able to log into it on my phone. Im so hurt, I love him more then anything and would give him the world. We have a 9 1/2 Month old baby and I’m due in 7 with our second baby! Let me also add that he told me he has not been happy bc of my attitude with this pregnancy. I try so hard to be in a good mood. But being pregnant it can be difficult. Back to back pregnancy’s, so my hormones are completely off. I really don’t know what to do. I would like some advice. I want to work it out more then anything but I have 0 trust in him, and that’s something that is so important in a marriage. This man is my heart, my soul, my everything. I never ever thought we would be going through this. If I leave, idk what or where I would go. I couldn’t afford the new house with just my income. Ugh my heart.. 💔
Adding: I grabbed his phone to look at the statements and told him I had a right to see them and he seriously fought me over it. Like held me up against the wall and pushed me on the bed & sat on me to where I was hyperventilating.. He has never been like that before.💔
do you think this issue can be fixed in a marriage?? 😢😢
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