I can’t orgasm?.. or am I?

Question

I’ve never had sex, but I’ve been masturbating for a few years or so now.. Idk if I’m reaching my climax! It feels like I get to that point, but when it’s time to release I can’t? Any help or suggestions??

Answer

Let’s start at the beginning. What is an orgasm?
During sexual stimulation, energy and tension builds up in your body and brain. This keeps on building and building, sometimes to the point where it just becomes so frustrating that all you want to do is release this. At some point the energy flowing into your brain becomes so overwhelming, that your brain goes into a trance-like state for a short period of time, allowing your body to release the built up tension and energy.
This release most often start in your clitoris or uterus, and the rhytmical contractions ripples outwards from there in waves of pleasure, spasms.contractions and maybe even heat/warmth. It can start as a sparkling or an intense heat. The contractions slows down and after a few seconds, it should leave you feeling good, well, happy, satisfied, relaxed, content, and maybe even sleepy and/or glowing. During your orgasm, chemicals are released in your body that will make you feel good, healthy, happy and if you are with a partner, it will help you bond with your partner.
Of course, not all orgasms are created equally. Some are 8.0 earthquakes, rocking you from yop to bottom, some are mere light tremors that just leave you feeling good.
An orgasm often ripples through your pelvic floor in a series of uncontrolled muscle contractions. An easy way to feel this is to just rest a finger tip on your anus. The contractions are normally pretty easy to feel there.
For a woman, orgasm issues are much more in her head than her body. You are after all making love to yourself during masturbation. Somehow many women still think of themselves as non-sexual beings. The cannot appreciate their own beauty and the incredible powers locked up in their bodies. They are critical of themselfes, they worry about how they look, how they behave, whart other people will think of them, the problems of daily life. The think of failures, of cultural and religious indoctrination, about the taboos society laid on them as women. When you want to experience the joys and extacy of your orgasms, you have to forget about all that. All that counts are your pleasure and enjoyment.
Masturbation is not bad, it is not for “losers” (however you define that term), it is not unhealthy, it is not something to feel guilty or ashamed of.
Masturbation is fun, good, healthy, natural, and normal. Some babies even masturbate and orgasm while still in their mother’s womb. Masturbation is private, it is not something to be ashamed of. Women and men around you masturbate, often a lot. Movie stars, news readers, athletes, politicians, teachers, mothers, sisters, nurses, astronauts, house wives, doctors, pilots, soldiers, clerks, secretaries, bosses, literally women and men from every walk of life. It is just private, not something to feel bad or ashamed of.
Now let’s talk about your sexual anatomy. The chances are very good that you have not been given the information about sex for pleasure.
You have two main anatomical systems coming together in your pelvis. The system for pleasure, and the system for reproduction.
For reproduction you have your vagina. It is largely numb and without feeling, especially deeper inside. It is devoid of many nerve endings to protect you from trauma during penetration, menstruation, infections, and especially child birth. Your vagina is your birth canal, a safe place for your partner to leave his sperm to make you pregnant, and an outlet for menstrual flow and discharge.
For pleasure you have a clitoris. Just that little tip (glans) that you can feel and touch has 8,000 nerve endings, making it the most sensitive organ in a human body. And that little glans is just the tip of your clitoris that goes deep inside your body, forming a double wishbone structure (the legs and bulbs). It is about 15 cm long. And it has only one purpose - sexual pleasure leading to orgasms.
Every woman is unique and likes to be stimulated in a different way. You have to take your time and explore your body and sexual response to discover the secret to your pleasure. But it is mostly centered around your clitoris. Rub, squeeze, press, vibrate, over, around, and on it, soft or hard, fast or slow, a finger tip, many finger tips ot the palm of your hand, small movements or big movements. You will just have to discover this for yourself. It is also likely to evolve and change as you get more aroused, and more experienced with giving yourself an orgasm.

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