Hey ladies, I want to start out by saying that I truly love my fiancé. He’s so sweet and hardworking and loving. But he has turned our wedding planning into a nightmare for me.

We got engaged in December and I knew wedding planning was going to be tricky, my whole family lives about 6 hours away or longer, and his family is 2 hours from us.

Anyways, I landed on getting married by the beach on an island in Savannah Ga. My thinking behind it was that both families will have to travel & it will be a nice vacation for everyone too. Well of course my family doesn’t care because they love me and want me to be happy. The first thing his family said was that “you know grandma won’t be able to come”

So that just set a negative tone for me.My Grandpa won’t be able to come either. It’s just something we both have to accept.

Well fast forward a few months and I changed my mind on a few things. I feel like I’m lying to myself saying it’s the best decision for me too, but I know I did it just to make him happy mostly.

I told him we can do a very small intimate wedding. With just our close family. (He has felt insecure about who will show up, from his side the whole time, so I know this would make him more comfortable)

Well here we go again. We both decided on inviting our mom & dads, sisters & their husbands, and my brother. Well I said I wanted to invite my dads only brother and his wife and kids.. well hell now the wheels have fell off again. He is mad and said that it was just supposed to be intimate, and his grandma will be offended..???

His grandma is in good health & I don’t see the reason she can’t come other than she is very stubborn and only wants to do her routine, much like the rest of his family.

I’m just so frustrated with the whole thing. I never imagined my wedding would be like this. I’ve compromised and compromised for him to be comfortable and happy, and I am so sick of having to do so.

Mind you he is 9 years older than me, I didn’t expect him to be such a diva about the whole thing.

I have people pleased my way through my life so far and I’m just not willing to do it anymore. I do not care if me and his family get into it. I will call each one of them up individually and give them a piece of my mind.

I just love him so much I am trying to make him happy, I am just afraid I’m going to look back and resent him for not letting me have my uncle at our wedding.

Also icing on the cake, my sister is getting married in the fall, also an intimate wedding and she’s inviting my uncle and his family. Am I just supposed to follow that up with not having him at mine?

I feel like If I give in this much now, and let him call the shots constantly, there’s no telling how our marriage will be.

I don’t know. I need advice. Am I overreacting?