Need some advice. My husband and I have been together for five years and I feel like our sex life is just going down the drain. He can go a week or sometimes longer without sex and I feel like any other guy that’s his age (23) has a much higher sex drive. I feel like a horndog compared to him. 😩 We do have a two year old and a seven month old, and he uses that as an excuse which sometimes I understand. We cant be very spontaneous, sex usually has to be planned. I compare our sex life to everyone else on this app and it just doesn’t compare. When he’s not using that excuse, he’s saying he has to get up for work at 4am and he’s too tired, which I also understand, sometimes. I just feel like he doesn’t even try to put in some effort.

When we do have sex, we usually start with foreplay and end with missionary or doggie EVERY SINGLE TIME. One position. He can’t last more than what feels like 30 seconds without cumming and I very rarely ever get completely satisfied. I’m just struggling with it, I feel like I can never finish and always have to masturbate to feel satisfied when he goes to sleep.

I just want him to be able to last long enough to try more than one position per sex session and finish me off so we can orgasm together. I’ve even asked him to start trying some techniques that I read online to help him last longer. EX: Masturbating up until he needs to cum and then stopping and doing this several times to help train himself to last longer. He barely will even talk to me about it and gets frustrated when I bring it up. He refuses to even try. I don’t know what else to do? As much as I love him, how can you have a good marriage without a satisfied sex life? Please give me some of your experiences and advice, I’m desperate! 🥺