Do I need to tell him?

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I'm pregnant by my boyfriend, and I don't want to keep it. We used protection. I'm so scared. I'm getting in abortion sometime in the near future. Do I need to tell him? I think he'd be bummed out, and what he doesn't know can't hurt him. I won't be talked out of this, and I don't want him to sway me, because he does that unintentionally. Does he really need to know? I feel like a slut and I feel so guilty. Its not really a conversation that needs to be had right now. Hes under alot of stress right now and I don't want to be a burden. I feel like he deserves better. What would you do?

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Uh yes.  It’s just as much his child as it is yours.  He should get a say. At least have a conversation with him about it. If he means anything to you at all, how are you going to continue this relationship with this huge secret hanging over you.  The truth will probably make its way out at some point and he might not be able to get past it.

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Like...women come after men HARD when they want that child support. Its damn sure his baby then but then all of a sudden it doesnt count anymore when the tables are turned and the woman doesnt want it. Double standard as fuck.

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Yes. That child is half his. Could you imagine if you told him after the fact or if he ever found out? He would be crushed you lied and maybe even crushed about the abortion. 
I fully support a woman’s right to choose, but I also support involving that baby’s father if you’re on good terms. Men deserve rights also. That’s only my opinion though.

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Nobody can tell you what to do with your body but I find it really fucking disrespectful to deny the father even just the knowledge of a potential baby. So heartbreaking. I feel like this is one of the most selfish thing women are doing these days. It's all about her body and her choice but it's still HIS KID TOO💔💔💔

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Sorry people are attacking you for seeking advice about such a huge and sensitive decision. 💔 I think you should tell him, it's the right thing to do. He deserves to have an opportunity to at least tell you how he feels. Ultimately, the decision not to harbor a potential life inside your body for 40 weeks, is yours. Whether or not you consider it a life this early on is personal and nobody else's belief is relevant in your decision. You're not wrong or dirty for becoming pregnant or having an abortion this early on. But you would be wrong to keep it from your boyfriend, simply because relationships should be built on honesty, not because he has some right to your body as an incubator. I don't think you're selfish for considering sparing him the pain of knowing, but I think you'd ultimately regret it. A secret like that would destroy your relationship. ❤ Good luck.

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If you plan on staying with him than absolutely. If not, than no. It's your body and do what you please. However before you decide I would put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself would you like to know?

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‘Does he really need to know?’ UMMM YES. Thats his kid too, while it’s ultimately your decision to take he still has a right to know that you’re pregnant. I HATE this ‘8’m gonna do it anyway so what’s the point’ mentality.

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Tell him cuz technically he is the father and should atleast know what’s going on. God forbid he heard it from anyone but you and that would make it worse for both of you. So it’s just better to be honest. If your really set in your way of getting an abortion than his opinion shouldn’t sway you in any way. But you have to be honest with the father of a possible child. In my opinion

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It’s too easy for all these people to shout a hypothetical yes. 
As someone who has actually had an abortion and as someone who didn’t tell my partner - I would say no, you don’t have to tell him. He thinks I had a miscarriage and we’re still best friends to this day.
It’s not a black and white question with a black and white answer. The world doesn’t work that way. Go with your gut.

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Your body, your choice. He doesn't need to know if you don't want to tell him.

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