Am I wrong ?(long story but tea )

tldr: boyfriends friend was a piece of shit to me yet I get put as if I’m the reason they stopped talking

So yes my boyfriend of 22 months .. He has a “friend” the friend has always hated me , when we first started dating which was two years ago he called me a gold digger , threw cheap shots at me called me out my name several times and the list continues I took the disrespect simply because I love my bf and I knew talking to him made him a little happy so I just said fuck it for awhile , last year around February this friend started talking about me dragging me through dirt in a full fledge paragraph talking about my sisters and mother and I was just shocked at the lengths he went to talk shit about me when I never even met this individual... however my bf claimed he was just joking so ofc I moved on

A couple more incidents happened where you couldn’t deny his disrespect even if you were blind yet my bf trying to keep the peace and not wanting us to escalate played it off as jokes so I moved on couldnt stand him one bit and Everytime my bf was around him something always happened whether it involved girls or just trouble with police and it annoyed me but I just shrugged my shoulders not getting involved until finally in September I was on my mans Snapchat because I wanted to post us for some dumb holiday and he was at work , that’s when his friend messaged I didn’t wanna check it so I clicked it away but it just ended up going on the screen anyway . I saw a white girls tiddies and a comment that was so disrespectful against me . I was livid felt beyond disrespected and more importantly confused on why he thought it was ok to send a taken man some tiddies. In the heat of it all my boyfriend blocked the friend deleted his number and basically cut him everybody they both knew said how wrong it was for him to do that including my bf . They having spoken much since yet I get blamed for the separation . When I didn’t force him to drop the dude at all .. I made one comment that made him believe that I said

“If you talk to this man like he has sense and he didn’t just do what he did then I may need a break from you cause clearly our values and views aren’t the same “

He took that as me saying me or him basically and he dropped him and took me

Months later he acts regretful towards the situation as if I forced him in that position when really his friend should have stopped trying to get this man to act single and treat me like trash putting things in his head minded his business and just worried about himself /they friendship

I don’t think I’m in the wrong yet it gets put like I am I simply got sick of some stranger doing the most too me when it wasn’t called for .... I literally told my bf if you want this piece of shit back so bad go talk to him idc just don’t talk about me don’t involve me and we good then he gonna turn around and say “I don’t have no desire to talk to him I was just saying “ like no why keep bringing it up constantly then . It’s so fucking annoying and I really think I just needed to vent

This person literally strained our relationship for a good second by what he was saying about me over and over and altering how my bf saw me .. he intentionally tried to break us up so he could have his friend “single” back like he said

He put me down talked about my looks /body objectify me tried to manipulate my bf into negative things (drugs cheating etc ) like it’s a whole mess