So I’m in a interracial relationship for three years now. He’s Italian and I’m black. Well a couple months back I was talking to his mom bc his daughter made a comment saying how she does t like being in places like this bc she scared of black ppl. According to her I’m brown. (She’s 7 and I feel as though she is being fed that) And I had a talk with her and explained how that’s not nice and everyone deserves to be treated equally. Well while explaining this to my boyfriends mom she goes to tell me that the daughters mom and grandma got mad at her bc they felt she was making racist comments. ( the are Trinidad) so they identify as black/ they look Indian.

I asked her well why would they say that?

She says well if you turn on the news what do u see little black boys robbing or getting in trouble. Not the all American blond hair blue eyed white boy.

I felt very offended by that bc all the black men in my family are highly successful with NO criminal record.

I also feel as though he really doesn’t see a future with me bc if we had a boy he just justified the way his mom would look at my son.

When. We left her house I explained to my boyfriend how that bothered me and he immediately got on the defense never once seeing it from my point of view, but defending his mom the entire time.

He says I owe him an apology for calling his mom a racist.

Can anyone chime in on this or experienced anything similar?