My MIL to be has always been jealous of my relationship with my partner. We had a big falling out close to 3 years ago now and my partner is totally on my side and has always defended me.

They went to meet his biological sister to his Dad after 24 years (partner has never met her) and they always bagged her out to us so it never interested him to know her. They went for 5 days, left on a Monday and came back on a Thursday night at 11pm. My partner works 7am-3:30pm and was staying at my house as his little brother started rolling a joint as soon as they left and had planned to have mates over so my partner wanted nothing to do with it and was disgusted. They knew he was staying at mine for the 5 nights. When they got back on the Thursday night, they expected him to drop in at 6am before going to work on the Friday or at the least, go home straight from work which we were unaware of and all of his stuff was at my house so it only seemed logical to come back to mine, have a shower and pack his things up and we were going to go over there and ask how their trip was and have dinner with them. As soon as we got there they cracked it and said he’s so selfish choosing me and my family over them, they expected him to pop in and see them at 6am because they got up just for that reason after having a late night and called him so many horrible names! His dad got in my face (I’m 4ft 11 and he is at least 6ft) it was very intimidating and my partner ended up running up behind me and pushed his dad onto the couch before they both started having a punch on. His mum started saying it was all my fault and told him to pack his things and “fuck off” were her words.

Well, this is the conversation between my MIL and her younger sons ex girlfriend.

I know there is always 2 sides to a story but here is a little background;

1. He bought me flowers and showed his mum and she said, right in front of me “you can buy her flowers but not your own mother”

2. He was on $270 a week (apprentice wages) and paid $50 board. She had his banking password and would be notified if he spent money and without a doubt, she would question what his bought.

3. I ALWAYS bought presents for her and my partners dad for their birthday, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Christmas etc and never failed to miss Sunday night dinner at their house apart from when I was unwell or when my grandpa died. She never sent her condolences when he passed away.

4. She knew how much I loved cats and when my cat died and I was devastated (it helped my anxiety and depression) she laughed and said “a good cat is a dead cat”.

There is sooo much more I could say about her, it breaks my heart.

5. She called her own 6 year old grandson a c##t and threatened him because he accidentally landed on his 1 year old brothers leg and this really upset me.

She’s such a toxic lady and I feel like I can never move on, she hurt me too much and I know she really hurt my partner. He says he doesn’t care about them anymore and they can shove their relationship up the bum but I still feel insecure and like he’s doing it just to make me happy.

Should I apologise and try make amends with both his mother and father? I’m so torn and just feel so much anxiety about ever forgiving them.