Child support
So my husband has two kids with his previous partner. Before I came along, whatever she wanted... she’d get. He has always been the type of person that he doesn’t care if he no longer has money for himself or his bills as long as his kids are fed and dressed. So when we got together I noticed she was always demanding things like she wanted the child support money plus when the kids wanted something she’d tell him to buy it for them that includes toys, clothes, shoes and etc. I have a daughter with my previous partner too and he is also on child support but our agreement was he pays with money and I’ll be the one to purchase her things and etc I’ve never asked for money and then also for him to buy her clothes and such because I though that’s what child support was for, it isn’t fair for him (we don’t really get a long) but I can understand that he also had to pay bills and had his own family. He would pay $500 a month. My husband pays his kids mom about 1,000 a month, which I think it’s fair cause it’s two of them. I just didn’t like he was also buying them stuff because we had bills to pay and how could she expect for just him to put his part. So anyways, we’ve been together for a while and he didn’t stop but wouldn’t listen to her as much, one Christmas year she told him to buy the kids presents so she could give them some... I was like ummmm I don’t think so because we already bought them some and if she wants to give them presents she can buy them her self ( she got pissed at him because of it) he bought them two tablets one for his little boy and another for his little girl and they took them to their moms house and the tablets never returned, then my husband bought the little boy an iPod, took it to his moms and we still haven’t gotten it back. She has two other kids with her new partner but I just don’t find it fair that we bought them those things and she keeps them and then they come over and are bored and want to keep taking our phones to watch YouTube or whatever. It honestly pisses me off but I don’t say anything. At the moment my husband is out of work and no unemployment and she requested him to send her money (we don’t even have for ourself or our bills) and he told her he didn’t have any at the moment and she got all pissy about it so he sent her $120 for the week ( he pays her weekly). Now we are over drafted and struggling and we have a 4 month old together now and I told him if we don’t have money you can’t send her some at the moment, we have to think about ourselves right now and our son. After he sends the money she tells him to buy his little girl a special made outfit so she can go take pictures of her, I was like “babe you can’t cause you already sent her money, she has to use that money for anything your kids need.” He understood and didn’t agree with her which she got pissy about too. Mind you, she doesn’t work and neither does her husband, so they are basically living off of the kids child support and it’s no business of mine what they spend it on but she can’t keep expecting money and things, what does she do? Another thing I forgot to mention, the kids live more with my in-laws because they go to school where my mother in law lives and the baby mother only has them usually the weekends or some weeks here and there if they aren’t going to school, my husband sees them on the regular when he’s home and they come stay with us a couple days during the week, but like I said my in laws are the ones that have them there most of the time (the kids rarely wanna come over) and they really never wanna go with the mom and I tell him like she can’t expect for you to do so much and she doesn’t even wanna act like their mother. Anyways I just wanted to vent..... what do y’all think about this situation? Am I just being over dramatic or do I have reason to be uncomfortable about the situation?

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