He's cheating . I'm pregnant . What should I do..?

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My SO and I were TTC for 6 months and I fell pregnant . He had cheated when we were dating but not engaged or married . We had discussed it , and worked things out . I had a miscarriage very early in the pregnancy, and we decided that we should try again as soon as we could . Well, a month after the miscarriage I had my first period , and fell pregnant that cycle . I am 6 weeks 4 days pregnant today. I found an email on his phone , and it was a picture of a girl in the shower , from around the time I had miscarried . Out of curiosity I Facebook messaged her , and found out the biggest shock of my life . They had been dating while we were TTC, ( she met him on a dating sight no less ..)and had fallen pregnant . She did not know  we were married , he lied and said we were devorced . She's now 3 1/2 months pregnant , but has moved states . The night I found out , I was devisestated . My SO said he couldn't handle my emotions . So, he packed up and left for a weekend trip to Vegas . On his snapchat , wherever he went to this "car show " there was a video of women in nothing but thongs twerking . I tried to call him, but he won't answer my calls ... I'm thinking of filing for devorce... For me and my baby... Please , someone give me some advice .. No judgement .

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I think you should get a divorce. No woman deserves that and you have to imagine what it would be like for your babe. It would be horrible growing up learning that men don't respect women. But it depends on you.

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Please leave that piece of shit

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Sweetheart I'd go for the divorce. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. And as the child of a messy divorce it's much better to do it now than later once baby's older, they won't hold it against you. Good luck xx

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You poor girl, you have gone through a really rough time. I can't imagine how your heart must be breaking. But baby and you first. That divorce paper will feel awful to file, but your gut instinct will be better & if you think of baby's future it should be happy. No men mucking around in the background! And you can still find the one when you have a kid. Doesn't mean your love ends there, there will be someone out there who is better for you. My mum had my sister, my dad and her hit it off, 7 months later got married, had me after & are the most happy in love couple I know. 20 years of happy marriage!!

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His pregnant wife hun he cheated on got another girl pregnant n I hope u wouldn't make him not see that baby regardless it's his baby no child should know it n he should support it n your baby toooo

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Uhhh hellllooo leave him he is dirty n on top of cheating got another girl pregnant cheating is beyond forgivable when the girl is pregnant why r u hanging on to him n its clear he also a bad father going round making kids wit whoever u go ahead n stay n watch 2 more pregnant girls pop up not being mean but you know what you should do thats crazy im going to pray for u n ur unborn child to be healthy also get checked for hiv n stds hunny

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I think you should file for divorce. You shouldn't bring a baby into this world with a father that's making other children with other women. Think about the long run in a few years time. Even 10 years time you don't want to be explaining to your innocent child that they have brothers /sisters all over the place with God knows who. There's nothing to stay for hunny. All the best wishes for the future of yourself and your baby xx

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Divorce this asshole! I'm sorry to tell you but 'men' like that do not change. For the sake and respect of yourself and baby, please leave and never look back. I know you don't want your baby to grow up seeing that behavior being accepted or thinking it's okay to do that to someone. It will be hard to be alone but you won't be alone forever and it won't be hard forever. And what's harder? To be alone and raise your gift the way you see fit or to be with someone who puts you through constant stress and disappointment? You'll always be stuck in that unless you keep moving forward. He might tell you whatever you want to hear in order to keep you on the side but it won't change sweetheart. Don't give up and please get away from this toxic situation.  If I were you, I would speak with an attorney, gather evedince of the infedelity, and file ASAP! Don't give him the opportunity to sneak his way back in. I promise you, you will feel so much relief when you finally make that move. You deserve better my dear. Keep your head up and don't let anyone take your joy! 💕

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I'm going through this right now myself. He cheated on me pretty much throughout my whole pregnancy. I had no idea what he was doing because he is in the military so we were apart for months at a time and he would just lie to me. My husband and I are currently going through marriage counseling. However, I'm not sure if it will be able to repair our relationship or will ever allow myself to trust him again. But the only reason I haven't been too quick to divorce him is because ONE our daughter, I couldn't imagine her growing up in separate homes and she deserves a family TWO I feel that people are too quick to get a divorce and not taking the commitment of marriage as seriously now (for better or for worse), and THREE he is making an effort to change and prove himself to me that he is a different man now. But there is only so much you can handle. If you have done your part to save yalls marriage and gave your all and he hasn't gave one fuck then I would go ahead and talk to a lawyer about filing. I had a friend once whose husband moved her and her son back to their home state(Ohio) they were in northCarolina) so he could do what he wanted and then about three months later they worked stuff out. Had another friend who had a son and her husband cheated on her and met another girl and gave up all parental rights to their kid so he could have a life with girl. Where I'm at with my husband is that I don't love him like I used to and I'm trying to work on forgiving him but I do t know if I'll stay. My point is every relationship isd different and it just depends on you and if you'll ever be able to forgive him and if he'll ever come around.

He's cheating . I'm pregnant . What should I do..?

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