Am I wrong here?

So, we are trying to conceive our second child. My husband worked outside alllll weekend (including Mother’s Day), so be was feeling rough last night. He kept saying how exhausted he was. Well, I had a positive ovulation test.

I tell him, and he says, “Okay, well you’re going to have to do all the work.” ...so that really puts me in the mood, right?

Bedtime rolls around. We go to the bedroom. We’re cuddling. Usually that’s how it starts. Well, he looks asleep! I ask if he is asleep and he says, “just about”. Sigh. So I try to turn him on by kissing him, rubbing him, etc.

TMI warning: I start to give him oral. Which o rarely do. He STOPS me and says, “well, you have to at least get me hard first.” I say, feeling like an embarrassed idiot, “I thought this would make you hard.” I move on. I try to kiss him. He has me like pinned against his body tightly, so I can’t really do anything. I assumed he wanted me there. Like maybe just feeling me helped. But, nothing progressed. So I finally asked what I could do, what he would like. He says he doesn’t know, he is exhausted. I explain I am tired too. He says, “well, then this isn’t going to work.” I told him his attitude was getting in the way.

He starts going off about how I just waltz in here and am like, “ok! Let’s have sex!” And just expect it to happen. That I didn’t put on a sexy outfit or have a plan at all. He says input forth no effort, blah blah blah.

My feelings were SO hurt. I was embarrassed. I felt inadequate. I felt humiliated and definitely not sexy at all. I told him thanks for ruining my self esteem and I went to get ready for bed. When I came back, he was rolled over, and wouldn’t talk to me. Pretended to be asleep. Wouldn’t say goodnight or I love you.

I am really upset. I didn’t sleep well. He is going to blame this on me, and that isn’t fair. He puts so much pressure on me to turn HIM on. He never goes out of his way to turn me on. I have told him kindly I would love if he could brush his teeth before sex. He never freaking does! Yet, I don’t call him out or embarrass him even though it really turns me off.

Am I shitty? I don’t know what to do here.

Edit: Please note that I did not pressure him. He is the one that insisted but said I had to do all the work. If we would have skipped the night by choice, he would have blamed me if we didn’t get pregnant, even if he helped make the choice.

Edit: Thank you to the people who were kinds, I appreciate that. Secondly, I think this just made me realize how I didn’t effectively communicate the situation. Haha. Because I in no way forced him into it. I would have been fine not having sex, but he would have been very upset had we missed on a day I had a positive opk. It’s HIS desire to conceive even more than mine. I obviously want a baby, but I am fine with one as well. He insists on two. Also, we talked about it, and he just explained that he was feeling drained and in those scenarios I need to “try harder” to turn him on. He explained the biology of testosterone and such. If at any point he would have said, “I just want to sleep”, I would have been okay with that. Because honestly, I just wanted to sleep.