Paternity

Background: Husband and I went through a rough patch. Both cheated. Both agreed it was stupid, worked on our relationship. Doing great. That’s not the issue.

Im pregnant. More than likely my husbands however one time sex with other man around ovulation time (my best guess is after I ovulated from date tracking) and he pulled out. Small chance but still a chance. He decided he doesn’t want to know. He doesn’t want to be involved even if he were to know. He doesn’t want his wife or kids to know (he was never honest about cheating).

Husband and I decided we don’t really care. We wanted a baby. This baby is more than likely his and even if it weren’t, the baby did nothing wrong and will live a life loved and cared for by us.

We tried to do prenatal paternity 3 times and were told that I didn’t have enough of babies blood in my system to be able to test.

Now, we kind of don’t want to test. I think it’s best because what’s the point? To tell my kid that his biological dad split before he was barely even viable? I know I’m just overthinking a hypothetical situation but it doesn’t seem like that’s the right thing to do psychologically to a child/person.

Basically, I don’t need hate comments. I’ve beat myself up enough and have thought of all the angles/consequences. What I would like to know is if anyone else has been through this and has decided the same? How did it go? How are things now? Any regrets? Any insights or words of wisdom?