One month old. Routine???

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Okay, here’s the thing. I’m clueless ftm and wondered about routines? We don’t have one.. far from it! But.. he will be one month this Thursday and I’ve been thinking about a routine, and if we need one? I will be going back to work after next month... but as of right now..
My little one eats every 2-3 hours through the day and night. And sleeps the most in the later evening... maybe 5 or 6 to 9-10pm. Then we go to bed around that time and he’s up and ready to eat around this time or 11. And we can be up til almost 1am. Just nursing, changing diapers, burping.. etc. then we go to sleep and back up around 3-4. Then back to sleep. Then up at 6-7. This last feeding.. is this when we should get up for the day??!!
Because today we later around in the bedroom til 1pm in the dark just cuddling, nursing, sleeping, etc. I figured heck, I only got 3-4 hours of sleep so we can just nurse and sleep some more. But it makes me feel so so so lazy.. and like I’m wasting the day away. 
I guess I just don’t want to create and bad habits or bad routines!??? 
I’m thankful for any help on this!

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I would start a routine of sorts. My girl is 6 weeks and when she gets up around 6/7 we go downstairs (I also have a 2 year old who usually is up then) and then she eats every 2 hours for the most part and I make sure she’s asleep for a nap around an hour after she wakes and do that till bath time at 7 and then bedtime is anywhere between then and 8/830

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My baby cluster feeds every night from about 6pm until 12, 1, or 2 am. So I don't know how to set a bedtime. Any suggestions?

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I highly recommend looking up takingcarababies on Instagram. It’s helped me a ton! My baby is 6 weeks and we’ve started waking him throughout the day so he doesn’t nap more than 2-3 hours and he gets good solid awake time. It’s been really helpful and has helped his nighttime sleep. It’s really hard putting a baby this young on an actual schedule so i don’t time everything like nap at 1pm, etc. but we start our day between 6-7 because we go to bed between 8-9pm. He usually naps around 9am. Things get out of wack though still, like he’ll have a few good nights then the next he’ll be up all night lol

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We let our babe set her schedule. She eats every 2-3 hours typically, every hour if cluster feeding. She eats, is awake a bit, and then sleeps until she wakes to eat. She is down for the night around 9pm and wakes to eat when she wants ( sometimes midnight and sometimes 3am). As our kiddos get older we make sure they go to sleep around their normal time but that’s to prevent them from getting overtired. In my opinion they know what they need when they need it and there’s no point in scheduling their day 🤷🏼‍♀️ then when they have an off day (teething, sick, etc) you spend the day fighting them to be on schedule rather than listening to their cues!

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Right now I’m working on getting him on a bedtime schedule kind of. Going to/getting ready for bed 7-9pm. He usually wakes 3-4 hours later for a feed, sleeps again and then up 6-7am and we’re “up” for the day. Also I’ve been cosleeping but am trying to get him to sleep in his bassinet so that’s a struggle in itself. He does sleep a lot during the day, mostly in the afternoon. He is awake most of the morning. Kind of just go with the flow of what he wants but also working to get him used to day and night.

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