Debating on leaving

I got married fairly young at 19 and was divorced by 20 because he cheated. I married someone else at 21 and we now have two little ones. There are times when the relationship is great but often there are times where I just feel unhappy and stuck. Kinda feel like I just settled. I have set boundaries on certain things (little things like porn) since before we officially got together but he continues to break them and it’s ruined my trust. I also feel like he doesn’t love me the way I need to be loved. He’s one that will tell me but I need him to show me and he’s told me he’s just not that type. I also can’t help feeling trapped. I’d love to be able to go travel with my kids and buy whatever I think we personally need however I feel like I can’t because he’s the one making all of the money. I have no problem getting a job and doing my own thing but he’d rather me stay home with the kids and not get a job. I feel like i want so much more out of life than just being a stay at home mom but he’s fine with it staying this way. I love him and I want to keep our family and home together but I’m not sure if I should just accept that we want different things and are going in different directions and leave or try to stay and make things work for our family.