Dads contribution

I need advice. I am a military spouse so obviously my husband and I are far away from home. My daughter is 10 months old and he still hasn’t bonded with her.. he doesn’t help me do anything with her.. doesn’t change diapers.. doesn’t help feed.. doesn’t hardly ever play with her.. he only holds her for a couple minutes if I ask him to please hold her so I can do something real quick. Now it’s to the point where she isn’t comfortable with him and she cries and screams when he has her so he has given up and says she only wants me and he yells at her and tells her she’s ridiculous for crying and everything and his temper makes me uncomfortable with her. He sleeps in until like 1 pm and stays up until about 2 am playing video games.. as if I’m not already alone because I had to move away from all my family and friends.. I try to have conversations with him but he says I’m belittling him by telling him he’s not being a father to his child and I really think he can’t see what’s going on here. I’ve never once gotten an break to take a nap or do anything that I want to do in 10 months and I feel like I can’t do this kind of life anymore.. I need recommendations of how to fix this because I don’t want to break our whole family apart I want to fix it but I’m so unhappy that it something doesn’t change I don’t think I can do this anymore.