Why do men suck

I see too many posts on here, on FB groups, and just in general about men not doing shit and it’s so frustrating. Even in my own situation. I finished grad school and am waiting for the test centers to open so I can get certified and I have a job lined up. But since I’m not working, I’m a SAHM for the time being. I was pregnant for the first year of grad school and had an infant for the second year. Now my daughter is almost 2. So it’s not like I never did anything but my husband is always reminding me how he works and supports us and I don’t. He works 40-50 hours per week, not the easiest job in the world but also not extremely taxing. He comes home and either sleeps or goes right in the garage to work on his projects or watch how-to videos or whatever else he does in there. He won’t come in until about 9pm and at that point he sees our daughter for about a half hour and then it’s bed time. Maybe he’ll come in for dinner to eat quick (and way after I told him it was ready so we never eat as a family) and goes back out. Ill call him to watch our daughter so I can get a break and he gets mad like “I work all day you stay home all day and can’t handle it? So I guess I’m supposed work AND take care of our daughter AND do the house chores”. I understand he works all day but why does that mean he can’t come in and see his daughter? Why does he think it’s like a chore to be inside and be with his child? She’ll be 2 soon so she’ll start to understand when he doesn’t want to be inside. She cries for him from the minute she wakes up and sees he’s not in bed. I see some women talk about their husbands who work all day and come home and still spend time with their kids or help around the house. It’s hard to not compare because that’s what I want. I’m really not asking for much I just want him to spend time with her. He doesn’t know how to play with her either. He refuses to get on the floor and play with her toys. He’ll take her outside and let her follow him around as he does what he has to do, or he’ll put on her show to keep her quiet. He’ll always ask when it’s time for her nap or time to go to bed. I know he didn’t have a father growing up and I always feared he wouldn’t connect with our kids because of that and he promised me he would be a good dad. I’m just so hurt and frustrated and I do act mean to him because of this so he uses that as an excuse as to why he doesn’t want to be inside. Idk if anyone else has had a similar situation and if anything worked for you? What can I say that I haven’t already? How can I make him have a connection with his kid? I’m just so sad and frustrated all the time I’ll take any advice at this point