am I too tight?

Hi! I’ve been with two guys sexually from hookups and each time they haven’t been able to fully get inside me without it hurting.. which has led to them stopping and the hookup ending.. I’ve even tried a dildo on myself and it feels like it barely gets in???

I’m asking because it’s frustrating tbh 😂😂 Ive felt sexual towards both guys and I know I can get off! also I’ve tried fingering myself and I don’t feel anything??? Is there a way I can find my gspot??