She’s 18, just graduated high school and is the shyest girl you’ll ever meet, so I’m proud of her for being willing to tell my parents. She wrote it all down in a letter for them which my mom got permission to share with me.

She says she realized she was asexual after getting on her anti depressants and realizing sex sounded unappealing to her. This is also around the time this guy in high school tried to kiss her and she wasn’t interested. I believe that was the only person, male or female who has ever tried to kiss her.

She said that she’s only interested in deep emotional relationships with females so one day she will be marrying a women and she wanted to prepare my parents for that.

This wasn’t a super big shock to the family, but I think we were surprised she was so decided on it. My mom tried to explain to her that her anti depressants and birth control both lower libido, so one day she might be more comfortable with the idea of sex, but my sister thought that meant we weren’t validating her feelings. Understandable, but I hope she knows sexuality can be a fluid thing.

Anyways, we want to be super sensitive to her at this time so I don’t want to bug her with questions about it, but I’m curious to know if there are that many lesbians out there who would be willing to get married without sex? It sounds like that’s her ideal plan right now, though I know her views will likely change once she gets out of our small town.

I know this is a sensitive topic so please keep comments kind. I just honestly don’t know what she has to expect out there in the LGBT dating world. I’m so glad she is self aware enough to really think about her sexuality and what she wants and I want to support her in the best way I can.