What would you do?

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My husband has gotten severely overweight after dating me and it’s bothering me. I still love him but I’m not physically attracted to his body anymore. I wouldn’t ever leave of course but what would you do to get your partner to improve their health? I hate seeing people stuff their faces. unhealthy behavior in general bothers me and I don’t know what to do. I try to get him to workout and he doesn’t want to. He eats like 4k calories a day and doesn’t move from his desk at home. He doesn’t go for walks. Nothing. He jogs maybe once a week but still eats so much. I tried getting him to workout ( I offered to workout with him) and he snapped at me. He cries about his body and I tell him that I love him regardless of it all and that I’m his support system but he does not want to do anything to change. What should I do?

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You should message me! I’m going through the exact same issue right now!

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I would say it very clear, I had this with my ex buy opposite ways, he got skinner and skinner. He hated to hear of course but he agreed that if was the other way around he would say it too. So just sit down and say it, communicate there is not a good way to say a negative thing. "Lately, I am having a hard time to be turn on with your shape, I would like you to take better care of your body, not lose weight for the way you look but also for health reasons, it could be a good thing, a hobby for us to share". 
My husband and I are very fit but we are dead honest when comes to that end. He said 2 days ago, " if you would get more muscle than that I would be turned off, you look perfect now". My husband is strong but here and there he gets a belly I say it too " you need to watch this, it is getting round"  he likes to eat chips and frozen food and McDonald's, so he limited himself once a week junky food. He asked me for my opnion on that.

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I'd maybe try sitting down with him and explaining all the things you'd like to do when you retire, and how it will be difficult for you guys to do those things if he doesn't keep healthy. Maybe bringing it up in a manner where he knows you love him, but is also made to recognize what these habits mean for his future will help him to make those changes.

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This is kind of hard seeing he’s already snapped at you. Maybe you can try motivating him by getting into yourself. Go get a family gym pass and tell him your going to start going these days at these times and he’s welcome to join you if he wants. I know me and my husband both found it much easier when we were in it together. Also, try to stop buying the “bad” foods for your house. I know he might still find a way to eat like crap but try your best to not keep it in the house. Does he have a good friend you could talk to and see if the friend will invite him to the gym? People tend to get less offended when their friends do it. Just some options for you. I honestly love going to the gym with my husband.

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