I like to be handcuffed, spanked really hard with a bare hand or belt or flogger to the point of redness/bruising, use of a vibrator, nipple play, sensory deprivation and play (like putting ice on the body), choking, hair pulling, and being pushed around. I like being told what to do sexually but i also like to disobey to make him mad. I like it when he chases me around and I play hard to get . .. is that considered vanilla? Or is it bdsm? If its bdsm, what would it be called?