So I found out yesterday that I’m pregnant. Still don’t believe it and will have to get it confirmed before I do. But I’ve been thinking once confirmed when to announce.

Here’s the thing:

My dad makes everything about him. When I got married, he started throwing things calling me disgusting and thought it was disrespectful to elope without telling him first or asking for his permission. I just know he’ll do the same thing this time so I wanted to keep this to myself for as long as possible. And I’m 21 btw and have been paying for rent and been on my own since I’ve been 19.

And with just regarding how negative my dad is, I wouldn’t announce until 6 months. I know he’ll do the same thing: name calling, texting family members to talk bad about me, just generally ruining the positive experience to make it about him and how he doesn’t approve.

However,

My two older brothers will be meeting together and I’ll be visiting next month. One of them is getting deployed in navy and I won’t see for another three years. And the other I probably won’t see until after baby is born. So it would be the perfect time to announce to them! I won’t be able to tell them in person another time :( so it’s my one chance!

But I know if I tell them, I’ll have to tell the rest of my family because if my dad finds out they new months before he did, he’ll flip out even more.

Idk what to do. I’m not obligated to tell anyone at all and don’t owe anyone anything. He wasnt a good father to me growing up and I’ve been paying for everything myself. And it’s my pregnancy!!! I want to do this the right way but my main priority isn’t catering to others, it’s to enjoy my pregnancy and be at peace.