He left his family for a older woman

Me and my husband are both 24 years old.... we have a 6 month old together.... apparently 4 months pp he started seeing a woman... soon after I found out he’s been sleeping with her unprotected... y’all she’s 40 years old with a 17, 15, and 11 year old... he is spending his first Father’s Day going to Tennessee with her and her three kids... his have no financial obligation in their relationship so I’m stuck picking up the pieces and taking in the responsibility that my husband left behind.... he did all this because we weren’t having sex.... I had a c-section I spent 8 weeks healing and suffered from ppd 😔.... he says he loves his son but that’s bullshit... apparently they are closing on a house together and he is permanently moving in.... I hate him..... and I don’t want him around me or my son this might be the worse pain I have ever felt. Any advice??? He’s my son btw like HOW COULD HE LEAVE THIS!!!

Btw he meet this woman is April.... its June............ he’s living off of her for free... he got tired of being a husband and a father he even gave me sole and legal custody of my son... he didn’t even fight for him... I hate him so much! His mother meet her and didn’t say shit to him.... he left his family... he left us... I cry so hard for my baby he’s my life I would die for him.... I could never!!!! I would never pick another human over the one I gave life to! Period!

Update: I have filed for divorce and should have a court date soon. I was really quick about it I don’t want to be married to someone like him any longer...... He says he wants to be friends but I told him that his friends are with the people he left me and his son for.... he does have to take my son on the days that I work but we don’t really talk and he’s gone as soon as I enter the house. He doesn’t see Ruben any other day he doesn’t even get a picture we don’t talk or text or call each other unless it’s about our son other than that fuck him and that whore he’s with. Because at the end of the day “cheaters never win” thank you all for your wonderful comments and words of encouragement 😭😭😭 I don’t know you guys but I love you all! This is so tough to go through and I just can’t wait to wake up without tears in my eyes..... my son is everything to me and I have to stay strong! He’s going to be alone and he’s going to miss out on so much..... I can’t wait to God to show him what it’s like to give up on your responsibilities and hurt your wife and your only son. He’s a piece of shit and I hope he feels like that everyday. Fuck him girls. I hope they rot in hell.

EXCUSE ME! I didn’t say anything about this man NOT wanting his child I SAID HE DOES NOT WANT THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A HUSBAND AND A FATHER WHICH IS WHY HE GAVE HE SOLE AND LEGAL CUSTODY! the divorce we are getting is called a “dissolution meaning the court is not involved in our settlement we have to mutually agree on everything! My husband left his FAMILY not just me for another woman and HER FAMILY! he’s wakes up with her and her family, he goes home with her and her family, he eats dinner with her and her family WHILE HIS FAMILY IS SITTING HERE WAITING FOR HIM. my son loves his dad BUT HE DID NOT DESERVE TO SEE HIS DAD ONLY TWICE A WEEK, he did not deserve his father to walk out on him because he was too tired of taking on all the responsibilities of being a provider. That woman provides for him and he’s eating it up... I pay all my bills, I keep the lights on for my son, I buy his baby food and his pampers and his clothes and his bottles. I TAKE CARE OF MY SON I AM HIS MOTHER! And NOBODY will every come before my child! I would never leave my family! No amount of sex or money is enough for me to leave the blessing that god made for me! So MISS LISA! please reread my post and correct yourself. Because when you have a baby by someone you were in love with and you needed that person and they walk out on you especially for another woman little do you know that shit stings like a bitch. He gave up on his family... PERIOD! This is hard, it’s hard trying to take care of your baby by yourself with tears in your eyes, it’s hard wishing he would come home just so you can get a 15 minute break or even a shower because you’re overwhelmed and tired.... I pick my son and I will always pick my son and he didn’t! This is not the type of man you want to have a baby by! When you have to erase all your hopes and dreams you had as a family that shit is HARD, when family vacations will never be a thing, or my son waking up with his dad for Christmas because instead he’s waking up to them... that shit is HARD! My child will never understand the pain I feel for him... because when he gets older he is going to ask his momma why his dad does not see him everyday.... and it’s because he didn’t want to be here with us! He hurt your mom and he broke her heart into a million pieces and he walked away from you and me without any hesitation. I will always see it like that. No woman or family deserves to be broken like this AT ALL!

UPDATE UPDATE UPDATE

I allowed my son to go over to my husband’s “new” home on Sunday while I went to work because I want to be a good momma and allow my son time with his dad BUT my sweet baby come home with a 102 degree fever 😔😔😔😔 I told him he’s not allowed to go over there again... and he told me why not and that I was keeping my son from him and he doesn’t want to follow my rules...... now look I have amazing support system so I told him if you want to see Ruben you come to his home if not he has places to go........ He told me he was going to take me to court and get custody BUT HOW?! You left you walked out! You can even tell me his pediatrician’s name! My child is not safe in your hands he’s 7 months he should come home with a fever at all! My baby was miserable y’all 😔😔😔 I’m trying to be a good mom for my son but his dad is not a fix fucking parent my baby is home sick and he just left to go on a 4 day vacation with the woman he left me for and her kids.... I have learned over these last few days that he just doesn’t care.... and he never loved me because you don’t hurt people you love! I love you all thank you for all the kind words and support! I hope you guys are blessed beyond measure!

Update!

hi ladies thank you for all of your words of encouragement and prayers! My son and I are doing well I got him into child care and I am still currently looking for a better job.. I haven’t talked to his dad in weeks... my mom has been watching him on the days I work while I get my head together and to focus on me and my son. I’m a lot happier I stopped crying lol and I’m not as angry anymore... I just want my son to have a wonderful life and a mother who is happy and healthy... our court date is in august and I looking forward to ridding myself of that piece of shit... my son is happy, he doesn’t miss out on anything, he has wonderful grandparents on my side (his family could care less) and he such a spoiled little bugger 🥰 he loves his momma and he keeps me going! I’m fixing up my apartment and getting my son everything he needs while he stuck up that old bitch ass, he barely checks up, he only sends me money, and we don’t really communicate regarding my son he missed his crawling, he missed him finally holding up his bottle, he missed him saying ma ma... my son is growing up before my eyes and he is going to miss it all... illy son deserves a better man in his life, someone who will teach him right from wrong, and would never put anybody before him... he threw away the two people who loved him the most... but oh well on to bigger and better things :)