Bed time routine!!

What the heck do you do when you and your spouse are doing different things for bedtime routines???? I have a 1 1/2 year old son. I am a stay at home mom and I am due to have our second son in August. I have been working to get our son in his own bedtime routine in his own crib. And my husband gets home from work and misses him so much he wants to cuddle him. Unfortunately either

A) my husband falls asleep while our son is in our bed and then I can’t put him in his crib because he will cry for an hour and my husband has to get up for work early. So now I’m stuck with my son climbing all over me and kicking me and not listening.

B) he wants to cuddle out on the couch right before his bedtime and he puts him to sleep and wants him to cuddle for hours so then when he puts him in the damn crib he has just had a nap basically and stays up screaming for a frigging HOUR!!!

My blood just boils because I don’t know what the hell im going to do when I have a newborn and a husband that will not listen to the fact that routines will make our life’s easier!

I’ve basically decided I’m putting the crib in his own bedroom and I am going to have to figure out how to get my husband to put him to bed every night at a specific time. And not give in to him crying and wanting to cuddle... I feel horrible for the fact that he misses him but it makes my job so much harder and I can’t imagine doing this with 2.... 😞