I’m kind of depressed about this and extremely frustrated...

I’ve been with my boyfriend for four months now. We both have high drives, we both find each other very attractive...but I can’t seem to finish. EVER. I feel so bad because he does a great job but my body just doesn’t want to do it. We can go for a bit until he finishes, but we usually last about 20-30 minutes right now because

1. We don’t see each other every single day

2. We don’t get complete privacy from our families so it’s hard to do what we want to.

3. Usually we stay quiet but our performances are still really good. He always finishes and lasts awhile.

So when we do have sex, we’re both really turned on but he’ll finish sometimes faster than I’d like.

Well we had sex today, and he finished within 10 minutes. I won’t lie, I was internally pissed mostly at him and sad for me but I didn’t say anything. In the four months we have been together, we’ve had sex a lot...but I have only ever orgasmed once.

With past boyfriends who were long term, I could orgasm every time with them. This was back when I was 18-22. I’m 24 now and I feel like my drive is the same but I don’t know why I can’t climax with him.

He apologized for being so quick and I said it’s fine. He asked me if I did (which he never asks but I guess he saw that I was slightly disappointed once it was all done). I was honest and told him that I didn’t, and that I really never do. Only orgasmed once but that was it within four months. He went silent. He gave me this kind of surprised look and assumed that I’ve been finishing this whole time. I just shook my head silently and said no. He apologized again, and I just sat there quiet and feeling defeated.

He’s an awesome man...big heart, lots of love, always caring for me...and I don’t want him to feel like he can’t please me. I just hit my breaking point because I really like him and I can’t understand why all of a sudden my body just refuses to finish. It just makes me feel so bad about myself and it’s raises insecurities. And it’s strange because I can’t even get..wet for him either. But I KNOW I’m attracted to him. I love everything about him.

What’s wrong????