So I'm going to try and keep it short. 2 years ago a close friend of mine starting dating a men with 2 kids she kept it quite from the rest of her friends we went to dinner and told us she's been dating this great ma she was totally in love I was so happy for her, all she ever wanted is to be loved. A week (can't really recall) she contacted me for lunch I was in work so we meet up on my lunch break she told me all about her man etc then said he had 2 kids from a previous relationship etc I didn't say much and I changed the topic she realised I didn't say much and asked for my honest opinion I told her " dating men with kids is a mistake in opinion, I noticed she started to get upset I said but what ever feels right go for it, she even told me they were already talking marriage and she want to meet his kids I kept quite and changed the topic, I went back to work and I got a call from her saying "I'm just a bitter woman, I think I know it all, there's nothing wrong dating a men with kids if its over with the other woman why cant he be happy it went onnnnn, so I said to her" why are u upset with what I said, u asked me and I told u my opinion but u can't do whatever u like" since then she stop all communication and I wasn't upset I moved on a year later a friend told me that my ex friend and her man are getting married and she wants to meet with the mother of the kids but the ex declined the invitation.. I was already over everything about her so I didn't want to hear it. Today my ex friend called me upset, crying I was even suprised cause I've changed my number since, but I pick up the call and she asked if we could meet to talk, I invited her to my home. She told me her fiance had been sleeping with his BM but she still want to get married and be a family with his kids(she has yet to meet ) I told her I couldn't help on this topic anymore (since its been nearly a year since we spoke she stopped all communication cause she didn't want to hear what I had to say) she's best asking her fiance or other friends for advice.

Do you guys think I did the right thing?

She's a good friend of mine and I've always been honest with my friends I don't think dating a man with children is ever the best things man with kids will forever be attached to the BM no matter what they say.. Playing step mum to other woman's children doesn't sit well with me i totally respect the fact u can't help it the children are innocent but no. Ive NEVER been a bitter type I have 1 rule never date men with kids

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For the ladies saying I'm bitter, ladies I'm not the one dating him, I honestly couldn't care if she choose to date men with kids I'm me and she is she.. If I was a terrible friend she wouldn't contact me after all these years I kept my distance I wished her well and moved on. I think some are very confused with being bitter and just giving an opinion.