Am I in the wrong to be annoyed

Soooo my husbands father just says stuff apparently without thinking but what he says is is just so wrong. But I don’t know if I’m over reacting.

We lost a baby in November and when discussing the loss a few weeks later he told me that “it’s GOOD” if my husband doesn’t remember the baby!

We are now pregnant again, he hasn’t been around at all and just the odd phone call during the last 12 weeks (yet turns up Father’s Day weekend after requesting a certain gift). He looks me up and down and says “you look like your having a girl .... aww well never mind” after also calling me lazy after my husband helped me get up from a really low chair. I’m really annoyed at the moment, am I just being hormonal and over reacting? x