So to begin this a bit of back information. Me and husband been together 12 years and married 8 in July.

I never had an issue with him “sorting himself” because I was always seen to.

However 2 years ago he cheated on me with a girl we both know. (To this day says it was only messages and 1 kiss)

However I did forgive him and don’t throw it in his face in arguments. My only issue is trust!! As soon as I get on track to trusting him he does something that makes me question if he’s told me the whole truth about the cheating!!!....

So my issue now is- I prob only get sex once every 2 weeks and he was adamant it’s just cause he doesn’t have a high sex drive (he’s 41).

He swore to me since the cheating he hasn’t been pleasing himself however during an argument last night he told me he had done so the previous week the day after we last had sex.

Not only did this make me think he faked it with me the night before as he never does anything 2 days in a row but made me think of the lies about things. And also I was either asleep or downstairs when he did it! he knew if he was horny I would’ve been completely game yet chose to hide in the bathroom watching porn...

just want some other perspective on the situation.

I even told him it feels like the only reason he wanted to try and fix things was out of guilt. I don’t feel loved and he hardly ever says it to me without me instigating it first!

What would you do if you were in this position?