Hi everyone, just here for some advice. I don’t want to hear negative comments, I’m trying to stay as positive as I can.

My ex and I have a three-year-old together we lived together for almost 5 years and separated back in January of this year. Has completely backed me the first probably four months and I have went as far as Siam I was in love with him anymore because it was true in the beginning when we had just separated I no longer felt like I loved him just because our relationship was so bad when we were together (both did wrong things) that it had went away..the physical attraction the emotional attraction just went away. While he cried and begged me to come back I said no all the time.

Now the tables have turned. I don’t know what has got into me but suddenly I felt this whole new attraction towards him. I have expressed my feelings to him but he’s still kind of upset that I have done a whole 180 on him while he begged him the first couple months. He’s still upset about how I left him. Now that he had finally been able to separate himself from me, I’m the one who wants him. I spent this last weekend with him and my daughter which was really nice yet also a bit bitter because he wanted to know the truth about why I talked to someone during our relationship. Yes, I was talking to another guy... this weekend has made me realize he’s still very hurt. I have considered therapy for us both which he has agreed to. But he says he’s a bit spectacle about me and thinks I’m doing interested now because he’s talking to other people. And I can’t lie that it hurts to know that. But I was talking to other people when I had just left him, I went through my phase where I was having fun, talking to different guys but now I just want my family back.

Now my ex is going through that phase where he has finally started to talk to people and I can tell he likes it. He no longer looks sad, he doenst cry for me anymore. But sunday night I made him dinner for Father’s Day and we had a couple drinks that led to us arguing about our relationship. And he starts to want to rub shit on my face like he’s finally moving to a different house and I stay quiet because nothing more I want than for him to ask me to move back in. Then later he’ll make comments like how I can take the rest of my stuff to his other house when he moves, so when I come by I can spend the night. And it confuses me.

I made a comment about this and he said that it’s only been two weeks since I started to be interested in him again. And he’s just confused as to what made me change my mind from one day to another. He says he’s just not going to drop everything for me when he doesn’t know if I’m serious about this. I left this morning to come to work but I’ve been there all weekend so I’m going back home today, I really want to hit him up but I shouldn’t right? I need to leave him alone.

Ok just to give a little more insight. It wasn’t just me who did him wrong. I have said what I’ve done without giving any information about him. He lied to me multiple times about his whereabouts only to find out he was out drinking at bars. He would come home drunk just to talk shit to me while I was home with our baby at the time. He started talking to someone during out relationship who he claims is his childhood friend and I never met and would hide his phone. He would always disrespect me especially when he got drunk. This is why I said we both did really bad things in our relationship that led to us separating. I am also very young compared to him so our were at different levels all the time. With that being said, there were good times so I’m trying to just think of that.