Anyone else's family not taking COVID very seriously?? 😅

RIGHT before COVID really broke out, I moved in with my boyfriend. We live in the city an hour and a half away from my family, who live in a very rural area. Perhaps its the small town bad-stuff-doesnt-happen-here mindset they all seem to have, but it's driving me crazy. My boyfriend and I are taking great precautions. We heavily quarantined up until a couple weeks ago when we decided perhaps a few trips to the store (we were strictly walmart pick up) or the gas station with a mask on would be okay and restore a bit of sanity. I've visited with my parents a few times since this all started and its been okay. My main issue is that my fam (aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, etc.) have been getting together for birthday parties and stuff like that. I still don't feel comfortable with that kind of stuff yet, especially since none of them really wear masks since it isn't mandatory and just go wherever no matter what. I havent seen any of them since February and its killing me because we're a family that gathers often. I've missed three birthday parties so far and now they want me to come to their Fourth of July gathering. Comments like "its like you just ran away and never came back!" and such have been made and I feel so guilty not going to see them. But I just feel so uneasy about it after all 2020 has been so far. Not just that they could've been exposed, but that I could expose them since I live in a more populated area with more cases. I feel like I'm being pretty logical, but they make me second guess myself.