Sex became a chore

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year. We started our relationship great but both of us are very broken people. He had his problems with girls cheating on him in the past and multiple bad relationships and I had a 4 year relationship and also got cheated on. So I was brand new out of toxic relationship and jumped into relationship with my boyfriend who I am dating for a year now. Everything is great but the huge problem we are facing is fights about sex.

At the beginning of our “honeymoon phase” we always had sex and a lot, but than after maybe 3 months of our relationship everything changed. He won’t feel like having sex with me sometimes and tell me that he loves me not only because of physical contact and yes many of you will say it is great and that he respects me but the problem is that I always want it. I never slept with anyone beside my ex who cheated on me and my current boyfriend. For me in order to have sex I have to be in relationship. I love my boyfriend so much and when we don’t have sex in couple days I question myself and wonder why. On the days when we do have sex it’s always great he never complained about anything and always tells me how good I am.

However, when we don’t have sex when we are together, it is very hard for me to control myself because I will be the one wanting it so much and all he would do is just watch a movie with me or play games or do something relaxing laying down next to me but not doing anything. He talked to me and explain how sex affected his past relationships and that often he was represented as a hot guy that all girls want to sleep with and because of the broken past and use that people got from him it really fucked him up. I am feeling bad for fighting him for it and he also works at 2 jobs now and simply doesn’t have any energy. Recently he told me that sex becomes a chore for him and how often I complain and push him for it. We use to have a lot of fights about it before and thank god now it’s much better but so far it’s been 9 days of me not pushing him and it’s probably the longest time we didn’t have sex.

Many of you will say that people go without it for weeks and months and it’s normal but at our young age I feel like it’s a long time. I am 20 and he is 24, he also says that it has to do a lot with his experience and age and that he is pass the stage of “feeling horny all the time” he also told me because I am younger I am much more horny than him and he can just hold me and cuddle me and doesn’t have to constantly have sex with me. Also I am very afraid to forplay with him because he use to say “no” or “not right now” so now he actually tells me to turn him on or touch him instead of waiting for him to do something and after I heard that it made me feel pretty sad because I am not a stupid girl I know how to turn a guy on but because of how many time it did not work in the past I just let him go for it. If you could just throw some hints over here and help me make him want me I will appreciate it.