Is a relationship between a 17 and 14 year old considered “grooming” or “pedophilia”?

This is the reason I got kicked out of my “girls advice” group. I just wanted to see the feedback on this situation on glow, because it did not end well on Facebook.

I simply commented and said “it depends on the situation and circumstances. I met my husband at 14 while he was 17 and were getting married!”

Then 2 minutes later I was kicked from the group and a Mod messaged me and told me to get help because my husband was a pedophile and I was “the stupidest person she’s ever met for not seeing that” and I should “get help”

When I tell you my blood boiled 🙄