What are some examples of being over dependent on your SO?

My man makes me feel like I am over dependent on him but I don’t feel that way. I think in a relationship you should both want to help each other out sometimes and that’s what makes it a partnership and a caring relationship.

Like he depends on me to make his doctor appointments, call when we want pizza delivery, baby him when he is sick, seek out and buy medications/medicines for him, google things for him, clean the apartment, do his laundry/fold it/put it away, be the one to feed our cat/clean the litter box/make and take her to appointments. Etc. And I do all that with no problem because I care about him.

However when I want him to help me with something, like I get anxiety going to grocery stores alone (I will go by myself if I have to) but I prefer him to come with me, and whenever I ask what he wants from the store he always says nothing so I end up not getting everything he would have wanted and he gets mad because I didn’t magically know what he wanted. And carrying all the groceries in by myself is a bitch (but again if I have to I will). But he shames me sometimes for wanting him to come with me.

There’s some other examples but I don’t think I’m overly dependent on him. I give him his space, plenty. He thinks even me wanting a consistent sex life is being too dependent on him (because he usually prefers to masturbate).

So I guess I’m just wanting some examples of what you think would be being overly dependent so I can see if anything I do matches that?